Something about Agreeableness from the Class before New Year

I did not expect that Blogger cannot be logged in mainland. I had planned to write something about our last class before the lunar calendar new year. But I could just save it for later when I realized this block.

Anyway, it is great that I can open this B now and recall what had inspired me a lot during that class.

I remember one sentence given by Udani, "Be agreeable when you disgree with others." Upon hearing that, I thought, "When I diagree with others, how can I still be agreeable?"



Later I wikied the word"agreeableness" and got:

"Agreeableness is one of the five major dimensions of personality structure, reflecting individual differences in concern for cooperation and social harmony. People who score high on this dimension are empathetic, considerate, friendly, generous, and helpful."
"A central feature of agreeableness is its positive association with altruism and helping behavior."

That did help me understand Udani's words better. Even if you disagree with other, which can happen now and then in our lives, you should still show respects to the perspectives and needs of others and be friendly.

You should not become dicruptive and agressive and even lose your temper just because other people hold different views from yours. Instead, if you can use more constructive tactics and try to give ground to others, you may gain more acceptance by your peers. And that acceptance means an asset in many socail situations, does'n it?

That is my understanding of agreeableness. I don't know whether this is all agreeableness and Udani's words about. If someone read this post and have something to add or have different opinions, comments welcome!

As for my scroe in agreeableness, I personally rank myself the average. If someone comes to me for aid, I will alwayse consent and try my best to help. But I do not often initiate providng help. That it what I have to improve later in my life in order to become more agreeable. I need to start practice being more sensitive to other people's needs.

Hope someday I can gain more points in agreeableness!